Don't like what you see in the mirror?


I hear my customers saying they don't like looking in the mirrors during their workouts. Obviously we are not there to critique ourselves, we are there to get a bloody good workout but it got me thinking...

Does self criticism keep us in check?

Do we think that...

self-critical behaviour is a safeguard against laziness, mistakes and complacency and that they’ll somehow keep us in line and ensure we achieve our goals?

In actual fact the opposite happens triggering feelings of:

shame

guilt

sadness

anger

frustration

embarrassment

disappointment

hopelessness.

Our discontent with our bodies drains our energy and confidence and paralyses progress.

Constructive criticism

provides specific insight into what went wrong and what to do differently next time; it’s considerate and respectful; it focuses on the work, not the person; and it speaks to both strengths and weaknesses.

Unconstructive self-criticism

Is vague, inconsiderate, judges the person (not our work or behavior) and is unbalanced. Most of the time this type of criticism isn't even accurate. In fact it is usually another emotion that has been misplaced.

Here are some tips that will help you change your perspective:

-Are you certain that the thought is accurate?

When we have self-critical thoughts we often assume they’re 100 percent true but often our thoughts aren’t necessarily realistic or even meaningful.

- Are you annoyed with yourself?

If you're having a wobbly day where you feel bloated or unfit perform a check in with your thoughts:

- Is something else bothering you?

- Are you cross with yourself because you ate junk food yesterday?

- Are you hormonal?

- Has something upset you?

- Observe

whats triggered the critical thought. Its incredibly easy to place negative feelings on something physical like your body.

When a negative thought about your body comes up, instead of complaining or putting up with it, you can note it as just a thought and let it pass by.

The inner voice demands -

This voice is so child like, all day it screams "I want!" Its totally knackering. If a child only wanted to eat pizza and ice - cream all day, every day, would you let it? Probably not because its not good for the long term health of the child. Same goes for you!

The voice in your head is saying "Im an adult I can do what I like" but the accumulative effect of that isn't always a positive one on your emotional or physical state.